Coaching
Ok, picture this – your car is stuck in the mud. How and why we got here are not all that important right now – we just need to get out so we can get moving, but the more we hit the gas, the deeper and deeper the rut becomes. No matter how hard we try, we are not moving. We don’t really need a mechanic – the car is working just fine. What we need is a vehicle coming from a different place (preferably, not stuck) to help us get enough traction to pull ourselves out of the rut by hitching a chain to our bumper and giving a gentle (or not so gentle!) tug. Now we can have the conversation of how we avoid the mud to begin with …
That, my friends, sums up what coaching may be able to do for you.
Whether you or your marriage may be stuck, or you just want to be sure it never gets there, “coaching” provides a strategic perspective and client-centered approach to the challenges and opportunities we face in our lives and marriages.
Combining Dan’s ICF accredited coach training and Professional Certified Coach certification through the University of Texas-Dallas’ Executive and Professional Coaching Program with his hours of coaching experience, Dan and Melodie use research-based coaching principles in a relaxed atmosphere to come along side of couples and individuals in their pursuit of their desired goals.
Marriage Coaching
Dan and Melodie, along with the Together for Good team, have designed a coaching platform to provide you and your spouse the opportunity to experience the REAL and INSPIRED marriage adventure you never knew was possible. Reach out to us today so we can begin a conversation how we can come along side you to support you in your marriage journey.
Couples often ask: isn’t coaching and counseling basically the same thing? While there are some shared concepts between the two, they are quite different.
Maybe this side by side comparison will help:
Counseling |
Coaching |
|---|---|
| Focused on past to answer the WHY | Focused on present and moving forward to answer WHAT NOW |
| Deconstructs to identify deficiencies & illness | Constructs to capitalize on strengths & opportunities |
| Longer process often needed for emotional and psychological healing | Shorter process designed for strategically planned goal accomplishment |
| Clinical | Consultative |
| More counselor driven – counselor is the expert | More client driven – client is the expert |
| Broader in scope | Focused in scope |
For some couples, therapy is essential to deal with past wounding and trauma. They must put in this work to gain a whole person wellbeing before they can move forward. But it really shouldn’t stop there.
This is where marriage coaching can make all the difference.
So, what’s the difference? Coaching focuses on the present and moving forward. It focuses on helping couples better understand one another and solutions to their issues. Effective coaches are experts on the process that helps couples move from where they are to where they want to be. Coaches will not tell you what to do, but will guide you through a process to figure out and commit to what will work best for you as a couple.
Marriage coaching can be a fantastic springboard to experience the marriage adventure you never knew possible. Together for Good takes couples through two very different tracks in marriage coaching dependent on their situation: restorative coaching and proactive coaching.
Important Fact: Outcomes are driven by process. It is almost impossible to achieve the desired outcomes from the wrong process.
As part of Dan’s studies in Leadership and Organizational Development at the University of Texas, Dallas, Dan chose a specialized concentration in Executive and Professional Coaching. Pairing this training with Dan and Melodie’s 30 years of real-world marriage experience, they focus on the desired marriage outcomes through an evidence-based coaching model.
So, here are some of the values you will find Dan and Melodie embrace in the coaching relationship:
- We do real.
- We do honest.
- We do second chances (and third, and fourth, …you get the picture).
- We do grace.
- We focus on where we are going, not where we have been.
- We do growth.
- We do transformation.
This fast-paced training module is strategically designed to help you as a couple identify your priorities, opportunities, and blindspots. This track gives you and your spouse a great overview of your current status with a marriage action-plan to move forward.
One-on-One Coaching
Dan and Melodie, along with the Together for Good team, have designed a coaching platform to provide you the opportunity to experience the REAL and INSPIRED life adventure you never knew was possible. Reach out to us today so we can begin a conversation how we can come along side you to support you in your journey.